When it comes to progressing in life, there are times it’s helpful to have a coach. Coaches help push, instruct, lead and assist us in achieving our goals. Today I want to talk about how to become your own coach, how we can improve on our self-mastery and achieve everything we want in life.
1- Observe your own thoughts and behaviors
Whether you have a coach in your life or not, we can all be our own coach. We know ourselves better than anyone, so we can be honest about our effort and attitude. One tip for successfully being your own coach is to practice looking at your life from an objective perspective. This is hard to do, but if you can remove your emotions from a situation and look at it from a different perspective, you will be able to grow and develop in many ways.
One reason to observe your thoughts and behaviors is to measure progress and change. You have to be honest with yourself about where you’re starting and what your thoughts are and how they impact your behavior. “If you don’t control what you think, you can’t control what you do.”
2- Focus on the process, not the result
Coaches know better than anyone that you have to focus on the process in order to get the results you want. The process is where the hard work comes in and this hard work ultimately leads to the result.
Begin by making a plan. Write down what your goals are and start working backwards from there. What things need to happen in order for you to achieve that goal? Is there a hard deadline? The more detailed you can make your plan, the more likely you are to succeed.
The process is often the hardest part, so be patient with yourself but also hold yourself to a higher standard than you have in the past. Don’t let yourself slack off because of laziness. “Comfort is the enemy of progress.”
3- Get rid of your limiting beliefs
Limiting beliefs are things you believe to be true that limit you in some way. These beliefs can be about you or the world around you. Limiting beliefs often hold people back from making changes in their lives. Holding on to limiting beliefs ultimately leads to a life without progression and negativity.
Limiting beliefs are things we were told by parents, teachers, society and culture. They often stem from our childhood. Beliefs like, “I’m not worthy”, “I have to earn a certain amount of money to be happy”, “I have to look a certain way to be accepted” are all examples of limiting beliefs.
Start getting rid of your limiting beliefs by first recognizing them in your own life. What do you believe about yourself and your potential? Destroy your limiting beliefs by doing things that challenge you and scare you. Push yourself to set big goals and do things that are outside of your comfort zone. We all have limitless potential and it’s time we start living life to the fullest.
4- Have a way to reward your progress
When working toward any goal, it’s important to reward progress, big or small. This is especially important when you’re focusing on being your own coach. Learn how to get excited for yourself! We are all too hard on ourselves and it’s time we learned how to celebrate our victories big and small.
There are many ways to reward yourself, for example, listening to your favorite music and watching your favorite show. For more ways to reward your progress, check out this blog!
5- Build your self-discipline
Self-discipline is one of the most important, yet challenging things to develop. What it ultimately comes down to is doing the things you should be doing, whether or not you feel like doing them. Continue doing this until it becomes a habit and even then, you’ll still have to force yourself to do things sometimes.
Of course there are times to be gentle with yourself. For example if you’re sick or have something unexpected affect your routine, don’t push yourself. However, majority of the time, we don’t get things done because we don’t have to self-discipline.
If you want to be your own coach, building your self-discipline is key. As your own coach, you’re going to have to push yourself out of your comfort zone. We often use the term “out of your comfort zone” but let’s break down what that really means. It means doing something you don’t like/want to do, something that scares you, something you are uncomfortable with. In order to push yourself out of your comfort zone and continue to progress as a human being, you have to work on your self-discipline. “Great leaders always have self-discipline without exception.”
6- Be nice to yourself
When most of us think about coaches, we picture someone yelling and being strict. This is not how I want you to think of being a coach, especially when it comes to coaching yourself. One of the most important aspect of being your own coach is being nice to yourself.
If you’re having a bad day or aren’t in the mood to workout, don’t get mad at yourself. Accept your thoughts and feelings and then make a decision on how that is going to affect your choices.
If you are nice to yourself, I can promise you will love yourself more, be more confident, and achieve your goals much faster than you thought. “If you can’t say something nice about yourself, practice.”
There are a lot of different ways to improve on self-mastery and I hope you learned more about how to be your own coach. We should always be growing, learning and progressing in life. Don’t let anyone hold you back, especially yourself.